the low down on selling clothes.


as a teenager every few months my friends and i would each load up a bin of clothes to haul down to san francisco and spend an afternoon huffing it up and down haight street to all the used clothing shops. we’d start at one end and work our way down, taking whatever was rejected to the next shop until we’d tried them all. then we’d take our meager earnings and put them right back in, spending our store credits on vintage t-shirts and velvet chokers and babydoll dresses. whatever was left we’d get in cash and spend on thai iced teas at ploy II.

over the last 5 years the options for selling clothes have expanded in a major way. i’ve tried many of them, keeping up everything from etsy shops and insta feeds to ebay stores and posh closets. what i find staggering about all of the options out there is that all of them make it near impossible to figure out what they actually charge for the privilege of selling your clothes. the fine print is pretty cray. so i thought i would put together a list of what these joints actually charge, how they work and what all of those little *’s add up to.

etsy: the cheapest option turns out to be etsy. etsy is for vintage (pre-1998) or handmade items only. etsy is really the best spot to sell vintage, but it can be a lot of work to get good photographs and provide detailed measurements & info on the items (these things are crucial). there is also such a large amount of stuff on etsy that it can take a long time to sell something. etsy charges $0.20 at time of listing, then a 3.5% transaction fee at time of sale plus a payment processing fee of 3% +$0.25. if you choose to offer paypal as a payment option for buyers, paypal charges another 2.9% per transaction. etsy also charges a 2.5% currency conversion charge if you sell to buyers outside of the us. total fee for sales in US= 6.5% +$0.45 of item’s final sale amount.

ebay:  for non-vintage (but you can sell vintage on ebay too) ebay is the cheapest overall option, and has exposure to the most buyers, but beware of headaches. many buyers back out/don’t pay or try to return items (even if you are clear that returns aren’t accepted). i have had a buyer reverse a charge with their credit card company (after a lengthy dispute process with ebay- which i won), resulting in my having to not only pay the ebay & paypal fees for the sale but a hefty chargeback fee to paypal on top of that. i’ve also had my ebay account hacked & hundreds of dollars in fraudulent purchases made, only to be told by ebay that i must have given my password to someone and let them make the purchases. needless to say it can be a shady place. here is their fee breakdown: 10% of final value + paypal’s 2.9% transaction fee. total for sales in the US= 12.9% of item’s final sale amount.

poshmark: this is my recent personal favorite because it’s straightforward and easy and you can avoid paypal. poshmark is an app based system- you take a picture with your phone through the app & post it, and buyers purchase online or through the app. it works like social media: you can follow people and have followers, and when you post something new they see it and can share it with their followers. buyers can buy at your set price or make an offer. once your item sells, a shipping label is automatically emailed to you (shipping is always $6.49- 2 day priority mail, this fee goes to poshmark). once the buyer receives the item funds are available & can be direct deposited into your bank account. for sales under $15, poshmark charges $2.95. for sales of $15 or more- 20%. total fee= 20% of item’s final sale amount.

mercari: mercari is a new app based system that seems to be trying to compete with both poshmark and ebay. you can sell anything from clothing to beauty products & household goods to musical instruments & tech stuff. you post through the app, and buyers can purchase online or in the app. you can either use their shipping label (flat rate USPS or FedEx) or choose your own & ship yourself. they only charge a 10% flat fee when the item sells, and they direct deposit into your bank account. the only charge for direct deposit is for deposits under $10- they charge $2. this is obviously the best deal going, but we’ll see if fees increase as the app grows. total fee=10% of item’s final sale amount.

tradesy: with tradesy you submit photos to them & set the price, then they edit your photos and post to the site. you have to choose whether to use your own shipping method or use one of their “shipping kits” (they will send you a box & shipping label- for a fee). once the item sells you ship directly to the buyer. their charges are: $7.50 for any item sold for under $50. $50 or more, tradesy takes 19.8%. they also charge a 2.9% “safe transfer fee” to transfer funds to your bank or to paypal. total fee= 19.8% + 2.9% of item’s final sale amount.

vestaire collective: vestaire is a luxury resale site that is sort of a hybrid of direct selling and consignment. you send photos to them for submission & set the price, they edit the photo & post your item and once the item is sold you ship it to vestaire for inspection, then they send to the buyer. it can be a lengthy process, but opens up your potential buyers to many other countries, and you don’t have to deal with buyers directly. pricing works on a tier system: vestaire takes $25 for sales under $70, 33% for sales between $70-$140, 31% for sales between $140-$345, 30% for sales between $345-$690. they direct deposit your earnings into your bank account on the 1st or 15th of the month, whichever is sooner. total fee= 30-33% of item’s final sale amount.

the real real: the real real is another luxury/designer resale site but you ship (or drop off, or they pick up in some major cities- for free) your items to them and they choose what they will post, take their own photos & set the prices. they pay on a tier system of monthly sales: you get 50% of items under $200, if you sell a total of $201-$1500 you get 55%. they direct deposit your earnings or send you a check. not a good deal in my book, but i suppose if you have a LOT of designer clothes that you don’t want to deal with, this would work. total fee= 45-50% of final sales prices set by them.

material worldthis site seems to be trying to compete with the real real, but this is not a consignment shop (they pay you up front for your items). you mail in your designer (no fast fashion) items (no charge), they send you an offer on the items they want to sell, and you get “up to 70%” of their estimated resale value (their estimated payout for a celine top is $27-$43- not much!). if you accept their offer, they send you a gift card that can be used at high end shops like barneys, saks, bergdorf’s, neiman marcus, shopbop and nordstrom or on their site. if you choose to get your earnings in cash, you’ll pay 3% to have the funds transferred to paypal. total fee=30-60% of their estimated resale value +3% paypal fee.

thredup: this one claims to be the easiest thing going- just send in your stuff & they sell it for you. however, they charge you $10 for a bag to mail your items to them (an additional $11 if you want your rejected items returned to you), and for the items they select from you, they pay next to nothing: between 5-45% on items sold for up to $75. you are also subject to paypal’s 2.9% fee if you want cash for your items. to me, this is a scam and a half. total fee= 55-95% of final sales prices set by them, plus 2.9% paypal fee. this is another site where you mail in your items & they sort & sell it for you. they charge $11.90 for shipping to them (another $5.99 if you want your rejected items returned to you). they have a tricky tier system- here is their example transaction: “Seller sends in a box and standard $11.90 inbound fee applies. The seller sells tier 2 items (giving either 40% in cash or 50% in store credit) with the total sales of $100. This gives a cash payout of $40. After deducting the inbound fee of $11.90, the Seller can choose between a cash payout of $28.10 or store credit of $35.13 ($28.10 cash payout multiplied by Tier 2 Credit Premium Factor of 1.25) “. doesn’t seem worth it to me. total fee= 30-80%+ paypal fee???

crossroads: crossroads is a retail chain with stores all over the u.s. that specializes in used but nearly new clothing. if you sell in person they give you 50% of their sales price in trade, or 33% in cash. they offer a drop off or a mail in option, but if you do this they only pay 30% in cash, and my experience has been that tell you they couldn’t accept anything if you are not standing in front of them watching them go through it. total fee= 50% in trade or 67% cash of their estimated resale value.

buffalo exchange: chain of retail shops similar to crossroads but they accept vintage as well as current clothing. they don’t offer drop off or mail in options.  total fee=50% in trade or 70% in cash of their estimated resale value.

instagram: selling anything on instagram can be tough, unless you have a bajillion followers. noihsaf bazaar (@noihsaf.bazaar) is a feed with over 11k followers that sells higher end/independent designer clothing and shoes. the basic rule is no fast fashion, but they do take the occasional j.crew or madewell item. you submit a square photo (or multiples) to their e-mail with measurements/description & your price, they post the item & the buyer comments on the picture to buy (or make an offer). you then have to send the buyer an invoice via paypal and once paid, ship the item to the buyer. total fee= $2.80 to noihsaf+ 2.9% paypal fee of final sale amount.

the end.


vacation dreaming.

vacation dreaming.
to quote my son: oh my dear! t’is the time of year where all i want to do is run away to a warmer climate. considering it has been in the mid 70’s this week, this is really saying something. winter has me down low, dudes. so i’m just going to pretend like i am a woman of means, one with zero fuqs and a million buqs to give to swanky boutique hotels, where i would spend my mornings in the bonkers beautiful dining room drinking mimosas and my afternoons sleeping them off by the pool. here are the items (just a few basix) i would like to take along with me on my journey to sunshiny bliss.
  1. in the land of fancy vacationers jacquemus is king. this fully enormous, aptly named Le Chapeau Bomba straw hat is the total most fabulous. the zara version is here, and here is a more affordable, v jacquemus version from asos.
  2. obviously a swimsuit is crucial, and luckily i just so happen to be a swimsuit fanatic. my favorites this year (so far) are: this tie shoulder one piece from j.crew(i’m partial to the white one), this crazy extra super cute clementine bikini by samantha pleet, this electric lime (major color this year) one piece from asos, and this leopard print one piece (because leopard print has become chic- not tacky- again. until further notice). additionally both the one piece & two piece versions of this bae by a detacher are full on amaze. pardon my rhymes.
  3. for day wear these ganni satin fringe shorts over a swimsuit are 100% it. also this little mara hoffman leaf print romper, this gingham caron callahan dress, and this mara hoffman rainbow print one shoulder dress are el perfecto.
  4. for a night out this isa arfen dress forever has my heart, and this ganni net dress will allow you to still show off your swimsuit whilst being v v fancy.
  5. for shoes: castaner espadrilles, chloe clogs, and these little target red & white slides.
  6. also of course a pair of shades (celine ones or the h&m knockoffs).
  7. a net bag.
  8. the perfect red lipstick (which does not need re-applying).
  9. fancy sunscreen & aloe.
  10. and assorted velvet scrunchies.

the end. meet me in paradise and save me a pina colada?

february covet.

february covet.
february! january is over! hallelujah amen we survived. i could not be happier to see it go, it was one crappy way to start a year. but i learned some lessons. did some big time mothering. organized the heck out of my house. got a lot done despite being up to my elbows in toddler snot; sweat; puke and tears. i’m ready for a few days of sunshine and a sunnier outlook. and also valentine’s day- my favorite holiday. here’s my list for all you sweethearts out there.
  1. first up is a v v romantic record by ornette coleman. my valentine is all about the free jazz.
  2. have you heard about this new trend of smushing your face with a rock? only costs you $45. i want to try it. obviously.
  3. i am trying to talk myself into investing in this ultimate perfection celine sweater. still tripping on the price tag. but holy wow, it’s one for the ages.
  4. if you have a tiny waist, these extra adorable creatures of comfort pink velvet maison pants are over on the real real for only $50 (+20% off!!). please buy them.
  5. i find this little satin slip dress by raey heavenly. to be worn over a turtleneck or under that oversized celine sweater. feels really necessary.
  6. these stiletto sock booties at target are the best balenciaga knife bootie knockoffs out there. they capture the magic sauce of them: just the right heel height to be wearable and balance out the pointy toe so that your feet don’t look like giant skis.
  7. these fancy miu miu rain booties kill me. if it’s gonna rain, might as well look FIERCE in your rain gear.
  8. speaking of fierce, i can’t stop thinking about these ganni boots which have been seen on every fashion girl‘s instagram. i have been influenced. consider me influenced. i will never ever afford them, but a girl can still swoon.
  9. oh i want this kaneko isao sweatshirt, which matches the floral print on my ultimate dream jumper dress.
  10. so glossier launched an exfoliating toner, which i’m sure you are aware of because every single blog and magazine did a review of it. i’m curious how it compares to the ultra pricey lotion p50, i shall report back once i’ve tried it.
  11. lastly is a quick little valentine’s outfit from h&m: this red sweater, with this tan skirt over these stirrup leggings.

the end.

tres organeasy.

tres organeasy.
i’ve been on a real organization kick lately. suddenly my house seems incredibly cluttered, and i feel the need to remedy that. i have to admit that i’ve always been a person who keeps things tidy on the outside, but behind closed drawers, closets & cabinets, not so much. i tend to get overwhelmed by stuff, so i either stuff it into a drawer or tub or box and stash it away, or i get ultra flustered and start throwing everything into boxes to take to the thrift store to donate. this usually involves a combination of pms, lack of time, and too much coffee, and is often followed by regret. so, this year, i’ve decided to be more careful and patient. because i’m a grown up. one who should appreciate the hard work that went into finding 3 different versions of the same vintage linen saffron yellow dress, but also understands that i don’t actually need 6 different pairs of reading glasses. one who gets the necessity of having 3 different cast iron skillets, but also knows that a full set of vintage corningware (gravy boat included) is not so necessary. one who appreciates the subtle nuances in the varying shades of 12 different red lipsticks, but who also knows that crusty sample packets of designer face creams should be thrown out after a certain number of years.
lately i’ve come across some pretty bomb ass pieces of furniture and items for organization and i thought i’d share them with the world. if you are looking, here they are:
  1. i feel like if you have kids, baskets are the only sane way to go. they provide quick access and cleanup. i also use them to hold rolled up throw blankets, and pairs of walking shoes. i love these quilted ones from target, and these ones from ikea that are cheap & can be rolled down if you want to show something off or stash it underneath something.
  2. i’ve been looking for an affordable, small dresser to keep inside my closet. i love this pretty white & gold one from all modern, this beautiful vintage marble top one on etsy, and this simple little pine chest from ikea.
  3. for storage i am crazy about this vintage bamboo trunk, and this bench with drawers seems like a perfect piece for an entryway.
  4. for shoe storage i like this 2-tone cabinet, this little mid-century style cabinet with drawers, and this cool little cabinet from ikea that mounts to the wall.
  5. for inside of drawers these clear plastic trays are the best. i also like these clear medicine cabinet organizers, and these little woven trays are great for desk or shelf organizing.
  6. i just got these space saving multi clip hangers for skirts & pants, and they are pretty legit.
  7. last are mason jars, which are not just for holding jam or quick pickled veggies! they are also perfect for storing kitchen dry goods or bathroom items like q-tips or cotton rounds.

the end.

these days.


georgia o’keefe’s closet via vogue.

my husband and i have been doing a lot of cleaning out around the house lately. he totally re-did our laundry room storage area and put in open shelving (’cause he’s cool like that). we also re-arranged our son’s room, after sorting through the mountain of christmas gifts that he received and thinning out the herd. then we tackled our shared closet and cleared out quite a bit of old t-shirts, records and abandoned running shoes aka junk. i love the feeling of clearing clutter, it somehow has the ability to make me feel like my life is not a spinning spiral of cray and everything is going to be ok. here are some things that are catching my eye of late.

  1. although i love having an empty space in my closet beneath my hanging clothes, i kinda need a little piece to hold my ridiculous collection of brightly colored/ultra gaudy vintage belts, metallic and hand-made clutches and espadrilles (with varying heel heights). it’s between this brass geo stand from west elm, and (more likely) this wire organizer from target. also eyeing this quilted storage bin and these stackable wood bins for my son’s room.
  2. i plowed through joan juliet buck’s the price of illusion in about a week, i could not put it down. she has had such a super extra remarkable life. artfully told recollections of growing up around hollywood royalty like john (and her best friend anjelica) huston, peter o’toole and lauren bacall. crazy tales about travel, money, power and everyone in fashion from guy bourdin, karl lagerfeld, yves saint laurent and of course anna wintour. romances with the likes of donald sutherland, california governor jerry brown and leonard cohen. and at the center of it all, a complex relationship with her father. one of my favorite books of all time.
  3. current favorite lazy dinner from trader joe’s: roasted chicken patties over zucchini spirals, topped with either almond butter turmeric dressing or vegan kale cashew basil pesto. also fully hooked on their pistachio cranberry bites.
  4. i didn’t really make resolutions this year, but i have vowed to finally start taking care of my under-things. i got myself some new underwear, along with some mesh laundry bags to keep them from falling apart. i feel like a grown up now.
  5. brushing teeth is always a struggle with my son. i got him this dentrust 3-sided toothbrush and he loves it. it covers a lot of territory in way less time, so i can get in and out of there quick.
  6.  last weekend while standing in the candy aisle at sprouts i spotted this jo jo’s chocolate bark with a label that read “kick the craving.” i bought it based solely on that statement, and holy crow, it’s pretty much the best thing i ever tasted.
  7. i love this piece in the cut: 25 famous women on thrift store shopping.
  8. i finally found a non-dairy creamer that honestly tastes and feels like half and half without all the weird corn syrup chemical shiz. praise.
  9. how pretty are these little ballerina heels?
  10. can’t wait to watch the new david bowie documentary: the last five years.

the end.

january covet.

january covet.
january! a new year! clean slate! peace out 2017, you were the worst! the literal, actual worst. i’m ready for a fresh start. i, like, gwenyth paltrow, will be starting a detox diet of kale stems and golden milks and iv drips to recover from my epic peppermint bark hangover. gonna power through until i come out shiny and de-bloated. here’s my list for surviving the d.t.s., and all the pretty things that nobody bought me for christmas :(.
  1. holy crow i want a vintage rugby stripe sweatshirt with BENETTON stitched on the sleeve so bad it hurts. too bad they are all located in malaysia.
  2. a wool celine skirt feels like a most necessary item for surviving winter.
  3. every january i decide i need to start wearing a watch in order to be organized and up to the minute at all times. this gucci plexiglas one is sick as fuq, but this urban outfitters gold metal one is more realistic.
  4. underwear refresh for the new year seems right, and a little girdle action can’t hurt matters this january.
  5. balenciaga knife pumps are 40% off. maybe if i focus on the percentage i can forget about the dollar bills i do not have. cause these shoes are the kind of legit fabulous that lasts a lifetime.
  6. my hubs got me a little uv lamp that is supposed to make me happy because it is effing freezing cloudy crappy wintertime blues. i think it is succeeding at making me less bummy. but i could be tripping the light fantastic.
  7. feeling ready to pull the trigger on this dr. dennis gross c + collagen serum to brighten my dull winter skin.
  8. i am really not a bag person, but man o’ malley, i am crazy about this rachel comey bag that is on maje sale at need supply.
  9. want to try this extremely woo-woo v expensive mushroom hot cacao stuff to try to kick my sugar habit. i feel like gwenyth would approve.
  10. also this sun potion ashwagandha which is supposed to help with the blues/stress/depression/anxiety/energy/save the planet/attain world peace.
  11. i am still OBSESSED with these celine boots. can’t stop lurking on them. so hard.
  12. sure would like to get my hands on a many moons workbook this year.

happy new year! the end.

a gift guide.

allow me friends to be your guide through the retail-sphere. here are 10 pretty little gifts for your consideration.

  1. smeg tea kettle ($129)
  2. leifshop colorweave bowl ($36)
  3. vintage style velvet bra & panties ($14)
  4. ganni ines shades ($198)
  5. hansel from basel black moon & stars socks ($30)
  6. vintage lucite bracelet ($48)
  7. capri blue zodiac candle ($14)
  8. solange a seat at the table book ($30)
  9. topshop sisters faux leather biker jacket ($110)
  10. humble ceramics nesting circles ($50)